10 people to never date.

Our high school group, led by the venerable Pastor Chris Nye, is in the midst of a series called DATEABILITY (four weeks exploring the teenage dream).

Check out the message from 8/3/11: “10 People to Never Date,” taught by Pastor Jon Furman.

Here’s his list of ten to not date, both for the ladies and the men:

Don’t Date a Girl Who…

  • Always has a boyfriend.
  • Flirts with everybody else.
  • Uses her body to get attention.
  • Talks about herself constantly.
  • Tells you how much she hates others.
  • Breaks up with someone else to be with you.
  • Has few same sex friendships.
  • Dates older guys.
  • Gets in other people’s drama.
  • says she likes you, but…

Don’t Date a Guy who…

  • Is a poor sport/sore loser.
  • Bought you an expensive gift.
  • Is constantly comparing himself to others.
  • Is never wrong/not his fault/never apologizes.
  • Treats you differently in public than in private.
  • Isn’t interested in your family.
  • Doesn’t ask you out.
  • Doesn’t respect boundaries.
  • Must be alone with you.
  • Never tells you no.

(Chris Nye followed that up the next week with “How to Ruin a Relationship.”)

Wish I had this kind of advice all around back when I was a teen. Actually, I’m sure my parents were telling me the same thing. Spread the wisdom people!


A parenting workshop for those doing pretty good (or even great) as parents.

Whenever we hear and announcement or see a 30-second commercial about a product or an idea, we subconsciously ask ourselves “Do I need this?” If we buy into what the marketers want — a want to want it, based our their projecting the ‘need’ we hadn’t realized before — we’ll buy what they are selling. Or, we’ll figure out the best version to get that is similar to what they’re selling.

Here’s the idea I’m selling you today:

You need to be at this Parenting Worship, on Saturday, January 22nd (9am-2pm).

As a friend reminded me this morning how all of us grew up with imperfect parents (bless them!). There was a year when we stopped communicating with and trusting them, and they were less effective in raising us. They were in many ways echoing the pattern they saw in their parents, living the same pattern out in raising us. So, let’s think about what age or year that happened in your family. Without wisely and godly counsel, you as a well-meaning parent (and me) will repeat this same pattern. We may be doing great right now, but there will be a day when we are not doing great. Let’s commit to planning for that day.
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